You don’t exist, and therefore you don’t have a wife. Pain may seem to be perceived in one body or in another body. That is not evidence of separation. Why would you think that you are that which can feel pain? Why would you not be that which does not feel pain? Why would you not be the table? Why would you feel emotional pain when your car gets crunched? You don’t feel any of that. There is no you feeling it. All of what seems to be happening is simply seems to be happening with no witness. The witness is completely illusory, yet it distracts from what’s happening. It makes it seem that what is happening is not whole, complete, and fulfilling. The self-illusion is seeking for wholeness.
Life is happening and then there is a self-illusion that seems to come in and claim it as being about and for someone.