Well that’s not what I said. I’m saying that when we stop judging we can make adult decisions about what to do next. By calling them “bad” and shaming them, we’re just staying in relationship with them. When we see them for what they are—mentally ill people—we can take appropriate action, such as walking away, or removing the authority from them (or encouraging or requiring them to get treatment for PTSD). When we cannot see them for what they are, we turn them into these scary bogey-people that we don’t know what to do with.