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The Futility of Asking Why

In my training as a therapist, I had to learn to stop asking people “why?” Asking why tends to send a client into a spiral of thinking, taking their attention away from the immediacy of what is happening into a multi-layered and complex story about what seems to be happening, what seems to have happened, or what might happen.

Why am I writing this article in this particular coffee shop? Because I like the coffee…