Relationships Work When You Don’t Take Them Personally

I used to take relationships very personally. If my partner said something that pushed my buttons, initiating a cascade of righteous indignation, then I would engage with it: “How dare she say that!” The thought process carried on: “I can’t believe she said (or did) that! How can she have been so inconsiderate? Doesn’t she appreciate all I have done for her?” And so on, and so on.