Maybe. I think it’s important to be available to the extent that it feels good and right. Many people distract from their own growth process by helping others. Some people dysfunctionally give, and they give with an expectation of receiving in return. Some people martyr themselves (I have). Some people have a form of spiritual bypass around giving, or a rigid identity around it. “I’m a good person.” or “Look how I help the poor.” As if people with less money are somehow different. One thing I have learned from doing therapy and coaching with both ultra-rich people and dirt-poor people is that essentially we are all the same, and we all struggle with essentially the same core issues.

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