I guess you’re asking if me being accommodating was a form of insecure attachment?

I don’t really know how to relate it to attachment style. I guess I was terrified of losing the relationship. I suppose I probably learned that advocating for myself was a threat to the relationship, so I stopped doing that, and a dysfunctional but adaptive self-reinforcing cycle started. My personality style is very adaptive.

I’m not sure.

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