Hi Bebe, I like your article. That’s a great point about vulnerability. Also, I realized that I don’t keep score at all with invitations. I probably generate over 95% of the invitations and I have bustling social life. I have no need for other people to invite me to things. Come to think of it, I often schedule the next meeting at the end of the current meeting. This is a great way to keep momentum in the connection. We can’t rely on other people to keep the social connections going; many people are very busy, or disorganized, or shy, or fearing rejection. If I want social connection, then it’s my responsibility to ask for it. I cannot control other people, including accepting my invitation or inviting me back.

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